“Oh, you’re the friend who lives on a boat,” the person that I have been introduced to says as she shakes my hand.
“Yes, that’ll be me,” I smile in return.
I used to enjoy the attention that being identified as a liveaboard sailor brought, but lately, I feel the need to express all facets of the diamond. People identify themselves through all sorts of things: their jobs; what they drive; where they live or what they wear. I live on a boat and although I am a liveaboard sailor, I am other things. If I didn’t live on a boat, I would still be these other things.
You can see this in the workplace sometimes too. An employer identifies you by your position or pay grade and puts you in a box with no consideration for your life experiences. It is so ingrained how we interact with each other that one of the first things we ask someone new is, “So, what do you do for a living?” You reply and the other person puts you in the appropriate box. When people have to change jobs, sometimes they go through an identity crisis because they were so attached to the label of their position.
So it begs the questions, “Who am I?”
I know who I am not. I am still discovering who I am. If you believe that we are all here to share our gifts and learn our karmic lessons, then at some point in our lives (I am midway in mine), we ought to be able to answer this question shouldn’t we?
Eckhart Tolle tells us that, “I am”. Full stop. So, if I drop the word, “who”, I can say with confidence that I know who I am. DRAT! This is hard to do with that “who” word creeping up each time I try to explain myself. Back to the drawing board. It sure would be easier if each life came with a manual.